Category: Introduction

In my post, Loneliness is a huge threat to our health, I stated men are more isolated today than ever before. We are in desperate need of real friends. The stresses of life and lack of genuine friendships may even be killing us! In today’s world of inappropriate sexual conduct, random school shootings, racial riots, and political insurrections, we see many guys who still act like boys. Accusations of “toxic” behaviors reveal that many males still need better guidance on how to use their God-given masculinity. Friendships with godly men can help them maintain the proper standards for biblical manhood and the ways of Jesus.  Many men today also struggle with balancing the responsibilities at work and home life. They’re failing in adulthood. Many males are not acting like grown men who are head of our homes, sensitive and caring fathers, and devoted husbands. We try to advance our careers

In my series of opening posts on this blog, I explained why men need more authentic and genuine friendships or what I began calling “God Buddies” more than 10 years ago. At that time, I saw the need (and had the need myself) for some deeper relationships with a small number of guys. Today, many men today have only shallow acquaintances. If they have any friends at all! Before I explain further why men need friendships —and especially why we need God Buddies, let me briefly recap my opening posts. Recap In Where Did All My Friends Go? I wrote that our relationships with childhood friends, high school chums, and college buddies, all change as we move into adulthood. Dealing with the stresses of adult life often leads to isolation and many men medicate with workaholism, over-eating, drinking, drugs, gambling, pornography and anger. Next, in Loneliness: a Huge Threat to

In my last post on the epidemic of loneliness having an impact our health and development of deeper friendships, you should know that stress also affects our relationships, especially those with our guy friends. But how? First, some brain-science Our internal social support system is based on a balance of hormones including oxytocin, which decreases anxiety levels and stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system calming down responses. Oxytocin also stimulates our desire to seek out social contact and increases our sense of attachment to people who are important to us. Proper levels of oxytocin also help balance out another stress hormone called vasopressin, which is associated with fight-or-flight behaviors such as enhanced arousal, focused attention, and increased aggressive behavior. Under stress, people generate inadequate levels of oxytocin, which is needed to balance their output of vasopressin. This imbalance leads to feelings of anxiousness and loss of confidence in an ability to