Category: Friendships

In this post, I continue this series that 2025 is The Year for Better Male Friendships. Via several posts, I am making my case that men need deeper, more authentic friends because 57% of men report feeling lonely, and 15% claim to have no close friends at all; numbers that are significantly higher since 1990. In this post, I explain how the virtual world pulls males from the real world. This retreat keeps boys and men from developing the skills to become competent, successful, and loving adults who succeed in work, love, and marriage.  Our Time with Friends is Dropping Previous posts in the series included an interesting video on The Decline of Friendship. I also wrote about how The Life-Stages of Friendships impact how we make and keep friends changes as we get older. More recently, there are other factors that impact friendships. I explained in No Time for

The more I read Jonathan Haidt’s The Anxious Generation, the more concerned I become about the effects of smartphones and social media. As I explained in my last post, No Time for Friends, Haidt believes these have led to a decline in the average daily time we spend with friends; not just young people but everyone. In this post, I present his alarming findings on what is happening specifically to boys as they retreat into a virtual world. This is just another piece of evidence to further my case for 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships. The Harm is Different for Boys than Girls Part 3 of The Anxious Generation is titled “The Great Rewiring: The Rise of The Phone-based Childhood.” Haidt opens that section with a chapter on the Four Foundational Harms of this rewiring (Social Deprivation, Sleep Deprivation, Attention Fragmentation, and Addiction). He then follows with

Since writing my last post, The Life-Stages of Friendships, I stumbled upon some interesting statistics about the amount of time people of all age groups spend with friends. This alarming data about our decline of time with friends and increased levels of anxiety today, is just another reason why I declared 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships. In this post, I’ll recap some of this data and why it has led to The Decline of Friendship. In the subsequent post, I’ll suggest the proper amount of time needed for friends as I continue to make my case for better male friendships.  Do Smartphones Cause Social Deprivation? I recently picked up a copy of the New York Times bestseller, The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. It’s a must-read for all parents because it explains how we changed from “play-based childhood” to “phone-based childhood” which is causing an epidemic of