Category: Friendships

In my last post, How Many Friends Can You Really Have?, I explained the brain science behind Dunbar’s Number for the number of people you can maintain as stable social relationships. I also suggested that we need fewer friends, rather than more acquaintances. This next post continues making my case for 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships to explain why men need help making friends. Man Needed Help  As I have stated in several previous posts, the need for better friendships applies to everyone: male or female, married or single, religious or not.  That said, my theory about man’s need for better friendships is based on several biblical principles. The first is that God created the world and humans perfectly, then said it “was good” (Genesis 1:27-31). However, our Creator concluded “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Knowing that, God created Eve as

Now that I have written several posts for this series about 2025 being The Year for Better Male Friendships, I feel it’s time to give you the backstory about how I came to start this blog and my book, Get Out of Your Man Cave: The Crisis of Male Friendships. This post describes my struggle with workaholism that teetered toward depression and how I discovered the need for deeper, more authentic friendships that I call GodBuddies. Over time, my closest friends helped me reorder my priorities and better understand my responsibilities as a husband, father, and man. It’s also why I believe every man needs a “band of brothers” who help them become a better man. Struggling with Workaholism My need for closer friendships started in my mid-30s as I felt the pressure of a career change and the responsibilities of a growing family. I was in the early stages

As I continue making my case for 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships, I want to provide one more reason that keeps men from developing deeper, authentic friendships: the metaphorical “masks” we wear. In this post, I will explain the types of masks men wear and how these masks hinder us from making and keeping friends. When Men Hide Behind Masks My last post, The Barriers to Male Friendship, provided several reasons why it is difficult for men to make and keep friends. Studies show that 57% of men report feeling lonely, and 15% of men claim to have no close friends at all. These are significant increases over the last 30 years and an epidemic of loneliness in our country, especially among males. For a great overview, watch this video, The Decline of Friendship. There is also a growing concern about how males are failing compared to