Category: Friendships

This past week was the anniversary of the passing of one of my earliest GodBuddies, Christopher J. Davolos, who died unexpectedly on April 1, 2014. Chris died a few days shy of his birthday on April 9 and would have been 68 years old next week. This next post in my series, The Year for Better Male Friendships, honors the man whose friendship embodied my GodBuddy concept and why I dedicated this website to Chris. It also explains one of the main principles: every man needs a good friend who encourages, supports, and challenges them to become a better man.   Chris was a “Barnabas” In one of my earlier posts, Three Relationships Every Man Needs, I suggested that you need a Timothy, a Barnabas, and a Paul in your life. Based on the example of the Apostle Paul, the model suggests that every man needs an apprentice (Timothy), an

In my last post, How Many Friends Can You Really Have?, I explained the brain science behind Dunbar’s Number for the number of people you can maintain as stable social relationships. I also suggested that we need fewer friends, rather than more acquaintances. This next post continues making my case for 2025 as The Year for Better Male Friendships to explain why men need help making friends. Man Needed Help  As I have stated in several previous posts, the need for better friendships applies to everyone: male or female, married or single, religious or not.  That said, my theory about man’s need for better friendships is based on several biblical principles. The first is that God created the world and humans perfectly, then said it “was good” (Genesis 1:27-31). However, our Creator concluded “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Knowing that, God created Eve as

Now that I have written several posts for this series about 2025 being The Year for Better Male Friendships, I feel it’s time to give you the backstory about how I came to start this blog and my book, Get Out of Your Man Cave: The Crisis of Male Friendships. This post describes my struggle with workaholism that teetered toward depression and how I discovered the need for deeper, more authentic friendships that I call GodBuddies. Over time, my closest friends helped me reorder my priorities and better understand my responsibilities as a husband, father, and man. It’s also why I believe every man needs a “band of brothers” who help them become a better man. Struggling with Workaholism My need for closer friendships started in my mid-30s as I felt the pressure of a career change and the responsibilities of a growing family. I was in the early stages